tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7326725956609171637.post2398495016912365479..comments2024-03-01T00:43:24.860-08:00Comments on sick girl speaks!: Brain Dead Before New Year'sTiffanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01295361245286822597noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7326725956609171637.post-72449849389195214622007-12-15T10:23:00.000-08:002007-12-15T10:23:00.000-08:00Hi Tiff, None of us know what the next year wil...Hi Tiff,<BR/> None of us know what the next year will bring. But I know that my past year has been better just because you were a part of it. Thanks for once again making me rethink my attitude today. <BR/>MMMidlife Midwifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03405697747288370189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7326725956609171637.post-90080967899791289202007-12-14T07:29:00.000-08:002007-12-14T07:29:00.000-08:00Hey, Tiff!When my daughter Bethany was born, some ...Hey, Tiff!<BR/><BR/>When my daughter Bethany was born, some of the best doctors in the country said that she had very little chance to survive (one doctor said 1 in 100). That led to a real crisis for Mary Ann and me. We were spending hours each day beside the isolette of a beautiful little girl with whom we had already fallen in love and who was very much alive. But as darkness descended each evening and we readied to leave the hospital, a different darkness descended--a fear that we might never see her alive again.<BR/><BR/>Which was she? Dead or alive? In one sense, it felt like she was both. But the human psyche can only deal with so much uncertainty. She couldn't be both and us achieve any degree of emotional stability. <BR/><BR/>We finally decided that while she was with us, she was alive, and that we had to focus on that. If that changed and she left us, we would deal with it then. It is not that we were denial--we knew how sick she was. But we only had so much emotional energy. For the moment, we had a lifetime of love to give to that child, and we did not want to miss one single second.<BR/><BR/>Bethany is now 23 years old. And still to this day, we try never to lose the opportunity to let her know how much we love her, and how happy and proud we are to have her in our life today. Today is all we have. And today is enough.<BR/><BR/>Blessings on you during this wonderful season, my wonderful friend.<BR/><BR/>GarryAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7326725956609171637.post-50070033099647244682007-12-14T06:46:00.000-08:002007-12-14T06:46:00.000-08:00Shoot Tiff, all I'm thinking about is the tedious ...Shoot Tiff, all I'm thinking about is the tedious nature of preparing for the holidays. Gaining a little perspective here, and grateful too for knowing you.<BR/><BR/>All success on your new endeavors in the coming year!<BR/>Judydenverdochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09574453567392165275noreply@blogger.com