tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7326725956609171637.post8613609445474443099..comments2024-03-01T00:43:24.860-08:00Comments on sick girl speaks!: Confessions of a Shopaholic RelapseTiffanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01295361245286822597noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7326725956609171637.post-1554741708293620112007-12-12T18:19:00.000-08:002007-12-12T18:19:00.000-08:00I agree with you about 12 step groups. I've been ...I agree with you about 12 step groups. I've been in multiple groups in trying to heal myself. They can be really frustrating. But the thing about the 12 steps? They work if you work them. <BR/><BR/> Many people go to the meetings thinking that just talking about their addictions will make them go away. No, the steps are a difficult process that makes you take a fine toothed comb to your soul and figure out where you are making mistakes in your thinking and actions. It's work, plain hard work. You came out of the program figuring out that you didn't want to continue your pattern of destructive behaviour.<BR/><BR/> You had to work to figure out how to handle those ugly feelings that drove your addiction. I think I did learn a lot from those other people who made me so mad at the meetings. It made me work even harder to not be like them. Many of them were the mirror that was held up to my face to make me see myself. <BR/><BR/>That's my two cents worth. My name is Midlife Midwife and I am a perfectionist. (I self medicate by creating unrealistic expectations of myself...because if I am perfect...I'll feel better about myself!)Midlife Midwifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03405697747288370189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7326725956609171637.post-37137100307504892822007-12-10T08:19:00.000-08:002007-12-10T08:19:00.000-08:00I shop to heal too. Perhaps I'll lay off a bit tho...I shop to heal too. <BR/>Perhaps I'll lay off a bit though, after reading this...I really don't want to join DA!jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05665566227297863569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7326725956609171637.post-76866787808122746422007-12-05T08:58:00.000-08:002007-12-05T08:58:00.000-08:00It probably doesn't help that it's the holiday sea...It probably doesn't help that it's the holiday season... everywhere you turn, someone (or some commerical, or catalog) is encouraging you to buy, buy, buy. I get at least 4 mail-order catalogs a day right now.<BR/><BR/>The trick to recovering from any addiction lies in resilience (I had a lapse, but now I'm back on track) rather than perfection (never making another impulse purchase). Hang in there!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7326725956609171637.post-48634760044713788272007-12-03T07:14:00.000-08:002007-12-03T07:14:00.000-08:00Do you agree with the old cliche "Abstinence is ea...Do you agree with the old cliche "Abstinence is easier than moderation"? I am not sure how I feel about that. On the one hand, it probably is easier for me to avoid the chocolate cookies altogether rather than have just one. But on the other hand, I am not sure that we are designed to live a Spartan existence--it takes all the fun out of life. There has to be something in the middle. Maybe we should go shopping together! I will go into Macy's with you and say, "Ok, Tiff, which one of those dresses do you like the most?" and then you can take me to the Great American Cookie Company and say, "Ok, Gar, go sit down and I will buy you your one cookie!" LOLAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7326725956609171637.post-36383174762774852252007-12-01T21:06:00.000-08:002007-12-01T21:06:00.000-08:00I've tagged you for a meme--check out my blog for ...I've tagged you for a meme--check out my blog for the details....Lauriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10392908564921877962noreply@blogger.com