As children, we are told were are good when we are quiet and do as we are told.
As employees, we are considered good when we are quiet and deffer to the expertise of our bosses.
As patients, we are told we are good when we are quiet and don't question or treatments or those who treat us.
As advocates, we are good when we are not quiet, speak up, ask lots of questions, and (when appropriate) choose to not follow orders.
Being an advocate goes against the grain. In order to find our comfort zone as a patient advocate, we must first redefine "good."